21 Jul Parental Alienation and Perception. Can’t have one without the other?
Well, AI says that:
Parental alienation is a process where one parent intentionally or subconsciously manipulates a child into having a negative perception of the other parent. This manipulation can include criticism, badmouthing, or withholding important information. The goal is to damage the relationship between the child and the other parent. Children who experience parental alienation may exhibit a number of behaviors, including:
– Poor reality testing
– Inaccurate or distorted perceptions
– Self-hatred or low self-esteem
– Mistrust
– Feeling unworthy or unloved
– Feeling unsafe with either parent
They may also develop a confused sense of self-perception and have difficulty trusting their perceptions and feelings. This can lead to an uncertain identity, insecurity, and inadequate development of independence and individuality. Other issues that may arise include anxiety, depression, substance use, increased thoughts of suicidality, and school-related difficulties.
Well, I think AI is being gracious. about the subconscious manipulation part. The manipulation is being done to a child. The destructive parent most likely understands that a child’s perception is different from an adult’s perception and easily manipulated. The fact that the alienating parent is manipulating a child’s perspective is KEY. The fact that the child’s perception stays with them into adulthood is even more KEY. How many time have you re-visited an event in your mind that you think you remember correctly but everyone else tells you that your perception of that event doesn’t match up with reality? How many times have other’s explained to you what really happen, but it doesn’t change your mind?
When you watch TV, movie, theater, so much entertainment is about reality vs. incorrect perception and what happens when a person decides to explore their own mind’s misconceptions of reality. AI says in order to treat alienation, the cause must be identified:
Is the root cause of your alienation, the parent, or foster parent, that you were forced to live with?
Did a family or juvenile dependency court (aka CPS court) erase you from one or both of your parents?
Were your forced to disappear from one side of your family or maybe both sides of your extended family?
Did one of these court systems forcibly remove one (or both of your parents) from your life as a result of Unwarranted Governmental Interference (UGI) in your family?
Our California “family” and juvenile dependency courts have committed UGI and destroyed an entire generation for $$$$. Probably more like two or three generations by now. You don’t need to take our word for it. If you have the ability to talk about it with the people who experienced it as adults that you trust, we urge you to communicate with them. If your separation from one or both of your parents was warranted, then that is a different discussion. Does parental alienation and false perception go together and stay together? We think so.
The question here is, do you really know, what you think you know, about the parent(s) you are alienated from?